And I thought I was one of those well organised (rare species) bride to be ! Every thing has been well researched,pinned , planned and sorted ! With one month left to the Engagement nothing seems to work in favor. One tick on the checklist brings on 3 more to do's. Sigh!
If you have gone through my previous Bridal Diary posts, you know that I live in a place which is 500kms from my city Kolkata. Every month I try to get a leave of 5 days to go home. With 2 days spent on travelling I have an effective 3 days to work ( hop,shop scout everything related to the wedding) !!!
I guess you can sense my utter disappointment on the "time shortage!!" Last week has been the craziest and here's how ~
The Lehenga Saga
My lehenga was definitely the first and the most important agenda of my visit last week. I had seeked the help of my friend's designer cousin for it. The cousin had introduced me to her partner/designer on January. We had sat together, discussed and designed the lehenga. All February I sat and dreamt of the prospect of my dream lehenga.
And then the totally unexpected happens when I get to see it. Except for the color and material of the fabric, the design was not exactly what I had dreamt (and discussed).The thread work , the zari border everything was different. And to top, they had added a (totally tacky) velvet patch near the waist ~ to add shape (definition) to my otherwise pear shaped body. I felt like screaming and crying !
The cajoling and pushing started (from the partner designer)..on how it looked flattering on me and etc.I was pissed off. I may not have a perfect body shape , I may have curves at all wrong places but I do have my preference, my taste and I only I know what I can carry off and comfortable in.
Oh and all through February, what I got was only a few sketches of my lehenga. I didn't have any clue on how the actual color was and how the whole thing was framing. They didn't bother me to keep updated (pictorial).And from that sketch I had absolutely NO idea about that velvette patch.
Anyways, I said them to scrap off that velvette patch first. Get rid of the tacky latkans, add a few beads. I swear if I had a little more time na.. I would have made them to start from the scratch.
THANKFULLY, a few days later.. my lehenga arrived ! Not exactly what I dreamt of.. but close and I was HAPPY !
Color of my lehenga ~ rani pink with red undertones
Picture of the lehenga, well you have to wait until next month !
Had Similar experience with my other tailor. I placed order for 2 blouses.. none of them fitted. Either they were too tight or too lose ! I had to go to them 4 consecutive days !!!
Skin Issues
This is my newest concern (pain in the a**) My otherwise well behaved combination skin decided to be a brat ! Am having more breakouts now, than I had in my whole life !!! Under treatement .. grr
Wedding date issues
In bengali weddings , the date of marriage is fixed in engagement/sagai ( patipatra as we call it). We thought of a November wedding.. but a possibility of university examination is peek-a-booing in that month.So, one month to the engagement , we don't have a date fixed. We can't pre-pone it, so most likely by default it will be december. Winter weddings are more comfortable than sweaty summers I guess.
Makeup Artist : Booked Nabin Das. But did not meet him (due to time constraints ) With no trials either, this can be a potential 'apne pair pe kulhari maarna' !
Photographer : Need to poke this guy. He didn't want any advance either... hope he doesn't back off at the eleventh hour!
Mehendi people , Salon/ beauty parlor for last minute pampering ! Not yet decided. I think for the Mehendi will go to Mehendiwala's infront of Basanti devi college and pick via "inkey pinky ponkey " For mani, pedi , hair spa ~ Be bonne. Facial ~ be bonne or four fountain spa.
On a happier note ,
- Shopped bangles from Tanishq and TBZ.
- Dull Gold jutis from Metro (to go with the lehenga)
- MAC blush, lippies and Inglot concealer ( which I would be able to show you only next month, since they are a gift from the boy's side)
- Had a spa experience at Four fountain's spa
- Bought the boy's outfit from Manyavaar and kohlapuris from Kohlapuri centre , Ballygaunge
TO DO :
Month April , No. of days to do : One
- Buy not so tacky, latkans
- That choli might need to be loosened a bit owing to my escalating weight
- OMG !! Totally forgot a clutch.. pouch/potli watteva.. but I need to buy one
Till then :
- Decide on marriage date (honeymoon plans and bookings can't be done without this)
- Keep calm, try to loose weight
- Start pinning Furniture ideas for the place to live
- Breathe

Loved the post !!! been there done that feel :P :P . .blouse, and lehenga, and tailor . . ohh those days :)
ReplyDeleteI really don't understand why they can't get it right in the first place (after all the measurements) ! damn
DeleteDOnt worry darling . . it'll al get down fine. Concentrate on your skin, just that !!
DeleteBride as it is looks like the most beautiful princess while at wedding :)
oh wow
ReplyDeletedont worry about ur skin
am sure u ll look like a princess on ur d day
thnx Barisha
Deletecongrats sukanya! and dont worry trust me everything is going to be good. I know its tough but just try and relax.. You will look great at your wedding , m sure :)
ReplyDeletethanx dear ! i think the engagement next month prepares me for the wedding !
DeleteIt's so hard planning for important functions.. I had a really hard time during my bro's wedding.. My blouse was stitched really loose and I had to sit at the tailors place to get it corrected just a few days before my bro's wedding, that too during durga pooja... you'll know how tough that is..
ReplyDeleteAnd try to relax as much as possible.. I've read that breathing exercises calm down the mind and skin..
You'll look great for sure..
during puja there's a crazy mad rush ! I can understand tailors goofing up then! Yeah I definitely need to keep my cool now !
DeleteWell try calming down..its d stress tat playin havoc on ur skin I guess! And dn wry everythin will turn out gr8 hon :) :*
ReplyDeleteI feel the same dear ! I just hope they clear up in a month ! Thnx <3
DeleteHey doc, ur skin is breaking down due to ur stress. Take a deep breath and relax! Ultimately, things will work out or if not, u will have some nice memories to laugh at on ur 10th anniv....lol...just jokin and trying to cheer u up.
ReplyDeleteSeriously, don't stress over small things, try and have fun :)
yeah seriously ! thanx Dollie
DeleteBreath deeep ... N relax ..
ReplyDelete:)
DeleteI dono exactly how you feel thru this phase bcoz I'm not into it yet...he he! But try to finish the preparations in advance and be relaxed bcoz face is the index of the mind...! all the best Doc :D
ReplyDeleteThanx Shylu.. well you will get to feel it when your time comes :)
DeleteThe mehendi walas in front of Basanti devi are so-so....ask how much the one sitting in South City mall will charge you....And there is one in City Center 1 in salt lake who does beautiful designs (dont know how he is for bridals though). If you have marwari friends in Kol then ask them. I have seen a lot of them with beautiful and unique designs that the run of the mill mehendi walas of Kol dont make....I think in Nov Hyatt hosts a big wedding exhibition...so you can get someone from there....
ReplyDeleteFor your other outfits try Mukhtar near park circus....they have a beautiful collection and will stitch the blouse and lehenga for you....and they do it right....I too have my weight problems but they made mine quite well so that it didnt look like a choli out of some b grade movie....u knw wut I mean....
Pressure ur makeup artist for a trial....dont leave it to chance...they are supposed to give trials/consultation for bridals esp cause they charge so damn much....and make sure tht the main guy is the one who is doing it and not his trained flunky...be very clear on it esp the main makeup thing...
Best of luck :)
thnx so much for sharing dear! South city are okayish..dunno bout their charges! If my wedding schedules in Dec I will surely try to visit that exhibition in Nov
DeleteMukhtar?? Is it near 4no. bridge ???
MUA's in Kolkata are charging 4K for trial only :X So, had to opt out :'(
South city one is okaish but slightly better than the Basanti devi ones....I see so many of these girls with awesome mehendi in Bridgette Jones parlor...god knws where they are doin it from....
ReplyDeleteMukhtar is below the AJC flyover....near the park circus connector...have u seen tht new cupcakes shop....i think it is called Rouge....if u cross the road below the flyover Mukhta is on the other foot a little distance away...
Ugh! really....sometimes the small time artists are better esp in Kolkata...ask ur friends and see some pics...Sendin u some links....this is my sis's friend and she got married recently...if u like the pics I can ask her who did it for her...
http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10151516866419493&set=a.10151515025869493.549262.743804492&type=3&src=http%3A%2F%2Fsphotos-c.ak.fbcdn.net%2Fhphotos-ak-ash3%2F857753_10151516866419493_1397857391_o.jpg&smallsrc=http%3A%2F%2Fsphotos-c.ak.fbcdn.net%2Fhphotos-ak-ash3%2F544175_10151516866419493_1397857391_n.jpg&size=2048%2C1366
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will check out Muktahar asap. thnx for sharing the links.. but cant see them due to privacy settings :(
DeleteCongratulations ..loved ur post..
ReplyDeleteStay bless n yes tc of ur skim..dnt take stress sab kaam ho jayengay..hehe
Love..
thnx Tej!
DeleteHow exciting! Can't wait to see your lehenga! Don't stress i'm sure everything will work out.
ReplyDeleteSita xx
http://buttonsapart.blogspot.co.uk/
Will share pics next month..pukka :D
Deleteoh sukanya congrats & i think u are so beautiful that no acne can make u look bad neways, we get acne wen least needed , but dear that may happen coz of stress and before marriage i actually used to go for shopping daily & ignord my diet & water intake & ate junk availbale near market and then had break out.. well i hope u r nt doing soo.. eat healthy and be happy ..
ReplyDeleteThis is true ! i think my eating habits went tipsy turvy while shopping ! will keep in mind next time ! thnx :D
DeleteCongratulations sukanya....dont stress:...acne come when least wanted...it will all then out to be great...and i get ur point about velvet patches...the material itself makes anythin tacky...
ReplyDeleteI got that velvette patch removed :D yey !! the lehenga looks wearable now ! otherwise i have a saree as back up ! :D
Deletelovely post, and oh my god for the lehenga...good luck with the breakouts hun..acne only visits when we dont need it :(
ReplyDeleteSeriously .. am so mad at my skin now !
DeleteCongratulations. I m sure you ll be a very pretty bride. Its so difficult having to find time for shopping and all when ur working. Hope everything goes well for you :-)
ReplyDeleteThank you Goga :)
Deleteall the best girl.. dont panic and get stressed. If you look happy no one is going to pay as much attention to your dress.. Let your face take all the lime light.. Njoy these moments...
ReplyDeletethnx Shikha.. yep I need to put on a smiley face
DeleteCongratulations...Sukanya...all the best
ReplyDeletethnx Christina :)
DeleteI had the worst breakout of my life just before the wedding .. Stress made it even worse. And few weeks past the wedding, my skin was all clear :P.. Basically it all boils down to your stress level. If you keep yourself calm, everything will fall into place .. I am pretty sure .. You will have a fabulous engagement! All the best :)
ReplyDeleteThnx dear ! I hope my skin clears out soon *fngrs crssd*
Deleteaww... I know these stupid so called tough time sukanya.. but plzz stop worrying .. everything wil go on very well in the end... THE LEHNGA< MEHNDI< MAKEUP< PHOTOSHOOT n all .. everything will go acc to plan n u will look like a Diva.. so just chill n relax :)
ReplyDeleteI got engaged within 4 days of our marriage fixing n still I got everyting done in those 4 days itself.. ;)
u had enough time so don't worry :))))
OMG 4 days!! take a bow.. thnkfully for me my wedding is at the year end ! otherwise i woud have freaked out!
DeleteHey congratulations girl!!! Enjoy your pre wedding!! :)
ReplyDeletethnx Miss Bo Peep :)
DeleteCongratulations.....
ReplyDeleteDon't fret ...stress can cause you to break out more.
Go on a cleanse. Might help you sooth the skin and get you all glowing in no time.
As for the Mehendiwala's ....my go to guy would be Amit Mehendi.
If I have a function to attend and I want Mehendi done then I just land up at his stall. I have seen him do 'to die for' bridal designs.
The contact numbers are 9831166578 & 9748404775. Ask for Amit Ghosh or Chotu.
Love n luck for your Big day.
~God Bless~
thnx Adaa.. are they based at Rashbehari??
Deletecongo sukanya!! i can imagine the pre wedding scenario..:P n dont fret dear everything will fall inyo right place..:)
ReplyDeletethanx Vandana :)
DeleteHey Sukanya,
ReplyDeleteDon't take too much stress re. Your skin is definitely breaking out cos of the stress. :)
Best,
Priyanka (The Purplenista)
www.amazonianbeauty.blogspot.in
I know .. n its exam season too :/
Deleteacha I forgot to add, if u need any help let me know. I'll be in Cal from 24th till 31st. :)
DeleteBest,
Priyanka
wish I could meet you ! I won't get any more leave this month.. akdom onusthan er 2 din age kolkata jabo..nxt mnth :(
Deleteaawww.. that is all right, i can understand what you are going through. we'll catch up next time.
Deletesurely Priyanka :-*
Deletenice to know.. as many said avoid stress.. everything wll go on smooth.. :)
ReplyDeletetrying the same Laxmi :)
DeleteHey Sukanya :) congrats first of all. I totally get what u mean.. me getting married in Nov myself! i want my MUA to come home n do my makeup for the wedding.I'd thought of Nabin Das too...but but he charges a lot if he has to come home :( Neways i've booked Sohorab Ali (Anirudh Chakladhar's assistant), hoping to lord he'll be worth the money i'm paying!!
ReplyDeleteI'm still searching for the mehendi artists but i guess i'll be finalizing the City Centre ones.
Good luck to u..
XO
Sukanya :)
hii Namesake, ;) great you see you on board too
DeleteHow much does Sohrab Ali Charge?? For once in a life time, I don't mind a bit splurging :P Nabin Das's I guess is 10K for coming at home..otherwise 8k.
How much does City centre wala charge?
keep in touch :D
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Deletebapsre ! really??? actually i live pretty close to Nabin Das's studio..so decided to go to studio instead. Have you checked on Abhijit Chandra ??? I have done a post of bridal makeupartict in kolkata you will get his no. there.
Delete15k for mehendi.. maar hi daalo ! Am yet researching on mehendi.. if you want low key, i think check out gariahat mehendiwalas..
drop me an email.. we can discuss more :)
I went on a calling spree a few days back. Called every goddamn MUA i could find! Nabin Das (i think) asked for 14k to come to Salt Lake. The distance matters. On an average, everyone asked for 14-15k.(Anirudhh Chakladhar - 20k and Arpita Ganguly- 17k!! crazyyy). I like Chakladhar's way of styling. Hence booked Sohorab Ali @ 12k. I'm hoping his style's similar to Chakladhar. Seemed like the best option since the trials are costly.
DeleteThe mehendi artists @city centre asked for 1.5k for bridal mehendi(just hands). I'm not sure if tht's reasonable or costly, since haven't yet looked into it too much. Moreover i'm new to Kol. Hence extra efforts at research needed :(
I del ur last comment.. ( this being a public platform, sharing email may not be a good idea :P )
DeleteOops. Point well made n taken :)
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